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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You aren't responsible for the actions of others. You also aren't compelled to remain silent about your experiences. If you're parents are uncomfortable with their actions, it's not upon you to maintain their secrets.[/quote]

Is it illegal or something out of the mainstream but perfectly legal?[/quote]

I agree with PP and don’t see how the answer to your question should change OP’s actions. If it’s illegal, it’s not OP’s job to hide their illegal activities and pretend like they’re behaving normally. If it’s legal but unusual, OP has no reason to hide her parents activities because they’re not doing anything illegal.m, and it’s not OP’s responsibility to pretend like they’re behaving normally.

Either way, OP is their daughter, not their PR rep. She’s not getting paid to keep up her parents’ image, she’s looking to vent to someone who can understand and possibly relate, while (presumably) wouldn’t want to spread rumors/true stories in a way that could hurt her parents. [/quote]

If it’s not illegal and no one knows about it except OP, then that would fall into private behavior. Surely you also have behaviors you don’t want to have shared without your permission. [/quote]

First PP here. 'Dysfunction', as noted in the subject may not be illegal but is unhealthy and, perhaps, toxic. It may be something the perpetrator might consider private but the recipients do not - although they may feel shame and embarassment.

'Private' matters are more related to the individual, not unhealthy and are not perpetuated on others.

My sex position preference is private. My father insulting way of arguing is not. You spanking your child would be dysfunctional and, therefore, not private.[/quote]

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