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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, I did request he doesn’t sit with him at lunch. My son doesn’t seem particularly bothered by the incidents like some of the others though so I think they are sitting him with the kid because he is easy going and deals with it better than other classmates. Would you just let it go and have the s hook handle it until it becomes a more serious issue for your child?  Does this usually get better or worse? Anyone experience this. I personally know of about half the students in the class having some sort of one on one experience like this with him. What eventually happens to kids like this? [/quote]

My easy going NT child is always the child who is seated next to and partnered with children with behavioral issues. Like your child he's not really bothered by the issues and it does not really impact his ability to learn. He learned a lot of empathy from those experiences and it's really made him a better person. These issues usually get better over time because more supports will be put in place and the children will mature. There was one classmate who hit him during a meltdown a few years ago. It had nothing to do with my child but he happened to be walking by as they were seated at the same table. That child is doing great now with no issues in class. That is one path.

Another path is that the child may be moved out of general education into a different program with more support but that takes time so it could be many months. IME parents are often pleading for these programs but districts are often reluctant to do it because it's expensive so it takes many levels of meetings to make this happen. A lot of these kids come back to gen ed after a few years.

Also, your child sounds like a great kid and your posts are really very empathetic. I think whatever you do will be done in a sensitive way because you seem like that kind of person. I'm sorry this is happening for your child and the other child and hope things get better.[/quote]

This is a very reasonable and rational response. Thank you for your empathy and for teaching your child empathy.[/quote]

I think it is great that some kids are not bothered by this behavior.  But I think not being bothered by it is different than having empathy.  I am the PP who requested the seat change for my daughter.  My DD also has learning disabilities, including inattentive ADHD and anxiety, and sitting next to this kid stressed her out to the point that she was using her flash pass multiple times per day to leave the classroom.  She understood that some of this student's behavior wasn't intentional, but it still upset her.  Girls in particular need to be taught that it is okay to have boundaries and to speak up to feel safe -- it isn't unkind or lacking empathy to not want to be hit, spit at, touched, or have someone banging their head and screaming next to you.     [/quote]

No need to be defensive PP. No one thinks you're in the wrong for asking your child to be moved. OP said her own child was not really bothered so I think people were responding to that. If it is impacting your child of course you should ask for help.

The people who are saying their child was not bother probably don't mean their child was oblivious. I suspect it did bother those children on some level because how could it not, but they were able to tolerate it due to whatever.

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