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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They don’t trust you. The way that you earn trust is good behavior + time. You may have started to engage in good behavior (not drinking), but not enough time has passed. Focus on your recovery and engaging in healthy behaviors. Stop trying to find blame with them and instead focus on what you need to do. [/quote]

Yes. You don't need to go to AA (it's not for everyone and doesn't always have positive results), but you DO need to work on yourself.[/quote]

Where did I say I blame them?

I was drinking too much and I stopped. I didn't do anything to anyone and the last thing I need is to sit around talking about drinking or "recover.," I was coping with some intensely personal trauma and in a lot of pain and that situation ended. It's that simple. But now I'm blocked. [b]I don't feel the need to prove anything or regain trust when this is my business.[/b] The blocking is such an insult it's unforgivable and it's their choice, I don't blame or not blame anyone or anything. [/quote]

OP, you haven't done the work. I can tell because you still don't see how your actions (belligerent drunk calling repeatedly) impacted your family. You think it was your business and not theirs, but their reaction - to set boundaries - was the natural consequences of how your behavior affected them. This impact is very much their business.

You also can't say blocking is unforgivable in one breath but you also don't blame them in another.

Go to therapy. Write them a letter taking accountability for your past action. Tell them you would like the chance to rebuild the relationship. Don't say that you think their blocking was "unforgivable" and "such an insult" if you want to be able to call in the future.[/quote]

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