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[quote=Anonymous]Wow, that is a lot. Your mother has no boundaries. She may feel lonely and depressed but she should not be placing this emotional burden on you and as a parent her job is to shield you from this, not treat you as her therapist. You are very enmeshed with her and are completely parentified. She is a bottomless pit and will not change. Her cooking and cleaning for you to exhaustion is a form of martyrdom that she can later hold over your head. She is not cooking and cleaning for you to help you. She is doing it so you fawn over her and feel indebted to her. I suggest getting into therapy for yourself to help you set some boundaries and learn not to give into the guilt and manipulation you have been conditioned into since childhood. As far as the relationship with your children, I don’t see a genuine interest on her part to be a grandparent. It almost seems like she is competing with them for your attention and is resentful of them. [/quote]
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