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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom once told me to try to avoid marrying someone who doesn't get along with his family. She said either that person is right and you'd be marrying into a family with difficult people OR the person you are dating is the difficult person. Either way it's bad news.

It was pretty good advice![/quote]

+100 People on DCUM who are practically crowing about how they are estranged from family, or worse, encourage others to become estranged, don't realize that they are announcing that they are damaged goods. I hope my kids avoid those people, too.[/quote]

As someone who grew up in a very dysfunctional family and who has gotten a ton of therapy and done a lot of self reflection in order to be a good parent and spouse I really resent the term "damaged goods." No one can help the family they are born into but they can their best as an adult to live an emotionally healthy life. While I would never wish to relive my childhood I have a lot of empathy and depth because of it. People in my situation are not "damaged goods"-we're people who were born to parents who shouldn't have had kids. Also, I don't go on this site too often-[b]do people really "crow" about being estranged from family or encourage others to be estranged?[/b] I ask this as someone who is not estranged from my parents but definitely sets boundaries in order to prevent myself and my kids from being hurt. [/quote]

Yes, they do.[/quote]

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