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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you say you get tired. I believe that. I don't, but I believe it. So, you arrange (and yes you have to initiate) shorter social situations. Meet for coffee, go for a walk, go to a movie (because you won't have to interact for too long). Have an end time. [/quote]

I feel like going for a walk and movie are for friends that are close already, no?  [/quote]

No. Not necessarily. You ask around other moms in your neighborhood who you meet at the busstop.  "Hey, I am trying to get a  bit more exercise and want to start walking. Any of you interested in walking with me in the evening or on the weekend?"  You can do the same at work and go for a power walk at lunch with a group of co-workers.

To organize any kind of group activity, you first start with putting together a communication vehicle. In other words, get all the mom's phone number and permission to be on a group text.  Then start organizing things.  At the office, it is easy to send group of people an email.  This is the easy way to meet people or organize a meetup. Our neighborhood has a listserv and that has enabled us to form friendships over the years and we are able to do lot stuff together. Same goes for the parents you meet through your kid activities. Of course, for each group of people, you also have to understand what they will be interested in.

You need to put yourself out there again and again. The most important thing to do is reciprocate to people as quickly as you can so that you keep getting invites and have time to spend with them.  As one poster wrote, this is like dating. You cannot let many months go before inviting them or spending time with them. Have multiple groups of friends, and introduce them to each other.  Also, understand that the people may be too overwhelmed to call people at home, so it is better that you are meeting them for walks, a movie, in a restaurant or other events.  Not everything has to cost money. You can also do a lot of free events in your area.  If these are parents, try and hang where the kids can also hang together.

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