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[quote=Anonymous]Some things that help is to have some common interest.  So, start by figuring out what you do with your time.  Parents do find it easier to associate and make friends with others who have kids in the same activities.  That's an easy way to find people that you have something in common with.  But I've found that unless you plan to volunteer or help with the kid-centric activities, that bond is enough to make acquaintances, but not really enough to make friends.  You need something else in common to actually make friends.

But you can make friends with people who have other similar interests.  If you like to read, then try to look to join or start a book club.  Maybe you like word games on your phone (like the latest Wordle craze).  Or you like gardening.  Or you like to knit/crochet/embroider.  Maybe you like to play music.  Figure out what you enjoy, something that you'd be happy talking about and sharing with other people.  Then try to find or join a group focused on that.  For example, go to [url]https://www.meetup.com[/url] and try to find an existing group near you to join.  Or you can try to create one.

As for small talk and breaking the ice.  I regularly go to a news aggregator like [url]https://news.google.com[/url].  I try to spend at least 10-15 min per day and at a minimum scan the headlines for the big news of the day.  I'll read a couple of articles about topics that seem interesting.  Check the weather, check out big events coming to your area or just look for the headlines of the day.  Check out at least the general headlines for the local pro sports teams.  I have found that the information I've gleaned from a 2 minute scan of the headlines will often be just the ice breaker needed to start conversations.  Sometimes the topic takes on a life of its own and your conversation partner will talk more.  Other times the topic creates a jumping off point and once you've gotten over the "curb", you can start to talk about other things without the awkward "what to say now?" pauses.  If I don't have any other time, I can sit in the pick-up line at school and read 10 minutes of headlines.  Otherwise, I've gone to lunch alone and read 15 minutes of news on my phone while eating a sandwich.  One of the big keys to being able to break the ice is to have something to talk about and general trivia news headlines and current events often serve that purpose well.[/quote]

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