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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Well, I say yes to all playdate or birthday invites if I can, and I am the one taking the kid to attend, and he can stay home with the other kid.

Kids wake up early on weekends (same schedule as weekdays) and the most I can do is telling them not to bug me till 8am on weekend. They have a lot of energy, and the weekday schedule (7am to 6pm) do not exhaust them at all. They need to eat breakfast and they want to do something.

I go against his weekend family time wishes, so he does not want to do much with kids later on for the rest of day because I "ruin" his plan. A lot of time, I cannot make it to home by noon to start his weekend family time plan because I sometimes take them to playdate/parties/festival/events/playground in the morning and seasonal swimming/soccer/dance class and they last past noon.

I don't understand, even though I come back home at 1pm, why can't he  still continue his weekend family plan? Instead, he would rather do his own thing because he says I already overschedule kids and they need down time which is they play by themselves. And, that also mean I give them ipad/computer (I used up my energy in the morning) or I take them to backyard to play if I still have any energy. He also let kids to choose they want to do for down down which is either play boardgame or play computer/ipad, of course kids would pick computer/ipad. And, that means he could sleep in till 11am, and we come home late then he can does his own things because he says kids do not want him or need him. [/quote]

Okay, I posted above trying to better understand why this was a problem.  The problem is not the lack of organized activities, the problem is that your husband is being a jerk.  Talk to him about how you both need downtime on the weekends and if you're in charge of mornings (which doesn't seem fair unless you're a morning person yourself) he needs to be in charge of afternoons.  Nothing wrong with lazy weekend afternoons with Dad if that's how he wants to do it but he is in charge and you get to nap/do things for yourself/go out/whatever.  Do you have a family policy on screens?  I wouldn't want my kids on computer/ipads all afternoon every afternoon (especially if they're used to high energy aftercare during the week) so maybe set an hour or something and then they have to get off -- up to him if they go to the playground to run off energy or play at home or whatever.  But again: he's still in charge.  You can all do his version of "family time" all of your together after dinner.[/quote]

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