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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds nice. Appreciate what you have.[/quote]

It sounds to me like she has a lazy DH who does little with his kids. She mentions that he doesn't play with the kids and he sleeps in. He doesn't plan activities on the weekend for the family to do. I would read that as she is picking up caring for the kids and planning things while he is not doing anything.

I would not appreciate that in the least bit.

There is this thing called balance. You can let each kid choose one activity so that they have something that they enjoy doing outside of school. But the idea that the kids are chill at home while Dad doesn't sound like the reality. [/quote]

She does say that he reads with them, plays games with them, and takes them to the playground in the afternoon (he prefers not to go in the morning because he likes to sleep in). It sounds to me like it would be relatively easy for her to strike a balance with him by taking kids to morning activities of her choosing, since that's important to her, and then having him do dedicated "dad time" to play and read with the kids in the afternoon while she does her own thing. Then dinner together as a family for togetherness time.

It's okay for parents to have slightly different priorities with their kids, and probably good for the kids in the long run. With multiple kids, you might wind up with one who loves planned activities and being social, and one who likes staying home and doing more solitary stuff. Neither is better than the other and this way their kids get exposed to both and can gravitate to what they want. There are plenty of people who value getting extra sleep, relaxing and reading, and just focusing on family on the weekends. It doesn't make them lazy -- they are doing things they value. Not everyone wants to spend their entire weekend hanging with friends and playing sports.[/quote]

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