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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with 2:46.  You are taking care of your mom, she is on vacation and irate with you for trying to do a good job which at that moment involves texting her. And YOU are now anxious because she's mad at you.

This is not a good dynamic, OP. You can maintain a good relationship with her and still not let her walk all over you. I know because I used to be a doormat.  I got a therapist for something else, and we ended up on this topic, and my therapist would literally give me the words to text, because I had ZERO training on how to establish or keep boundaries. It did not take long for me to learn, but I needed someone to teach me (at 54 years old) that there is something in between saying nothing and going nuclear.[/quote]

I don’t consider myself a doormat.  This is out of the ordinary for her.  I have empathy because she and her family live with my mom so she truly hasn’t gotten a break until this week.  I can understand her frustration.  I agree with previous posters who said this wasn’t really about me, just the situation. [/quote]

Not the poster you are responding to, but I am impressed with you OP. You due truly seem to have empathy and care about your sister and of course your mom. I think you both should agree that you both need breaks and make sure you both take them and have a rule that one only contacts the other for an emergency. It is an impossible situation and you both need to make sure you are addressing your own health and sanity needs. You and the other posters are right, this is not personal, but it's a red flag. I think you both will burn out if you don't figure out how to carve out safe time to decompress. There seems to be a great foundation between you and your sister and we don't want that eroding either. Please take care. Such a tough situation.[/quote]

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