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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would be cautious and take it slow.

Many men jump into a relationship right away because they don’t function well on their own. They want someone to cook, clean, easy access to sex, etc.

Also, in my experience dating a separated man - he was “ready” in the sense that he was over his previous relationship. But he still needed to get playing the field and seeing what is out there out of his system, so while he did verbally commit, he was still seeking out other women on dating apps.

I think often people commit too soon after the end of a relationship because they don’t want to be alone, and eventually they start to wonder what else was out there that they missed out on. [/quote]

This. Especially if the marriage was long, especially if they married very young.

There are layers to this. Even with an amicable divorce where both parties had kind of mentally exited the relationship years before the actual divorce happens, it just takes some time for people to figure out who they are outside the marriage. Even if they think they know, they don't. Getting into a serious relationship with someone who just split up with someone they'd been with for years, shared a home with, committed their life to, is like hiring someone who was working in a different industry for years and has just decided they want to do something new. Sure, you might give them a shot, but not in a high level role with a lot of responsibility. You're going to make them work their way up and prove this isn't a midlife crisis or a whim. You aren't going to offer them a signing bonus and a 5 year contract and a corner office, right?[/quote]

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