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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He will be trading one kind of pain and suffering and anxiety with another. Don't kid yourself it will be "great" and "go for it."

A good approach would be to find a therapist who can help him understand why she is the way she is, and to feel sympathy for her. It's a much better way to live then estrangement.[/quote]

I don't think you get it. You see to have all or nothing thinking. The husband has tried many strategies and seen a therapist. It's a gradual process with years of trying to make things work. I know for me at least after all those years of misery and torment, it truly was like being able to breathe. I felt like I was being emotionally strangled. For once I no longer needed therapy because there was no more abuse to process. I am still amazed at how long I tried strategies and I really think empathizing with the abuser was my downfall and it kept me trying for too long. There is a disturbing darkness in my mother's soul and it only comes out with people who get too close. If you met her, you would never suspect this lurked.[/quote]

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