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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] Yes, it's very true some adoptees talk of always feeling out of place, knowing something wasn't as it seemed, not fitting in, etc...but that's far from universal. It's also easy/tempting to say those feelings stem from the adoption, not something else. Millions of people raised within their biological families are depressed or commit suicide and recent research shows the difference b/w adoptees and non-adoptees doesn't conform to the stereotype (see below). It also doesn't do anyone any good to perpetuate the stereotype that if an adoptee just reunites with their bio family, those "holes" they have will close. It's so individual and fact-dependent and adoptees can be left feeling worse if they don't feel "whole" like all the happy stories tell them they should. 
[/quote]There are issues related to being adopted
You cannot just brush that aside by saying it does not exist
Adoptees are often angry at being abondoned so they do not connect with their birth families. I know one person whose adoptive parents divorced, mom became alcoholic.
And she did find her birth mom. After having kids of her own was very bitter at being given away
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NP here, and adoptee and adoptive parent.  Why not just say that there MAY be issues related to being adopted?  Some people haves them, others, including myself and my sister, do not.  I don't have any holes deep down, I'm happy with my life, happy that I was placed for adoption, etc.[/quote]

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