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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]…she’s still looking at privates that from what I can see on their website will offer her no merit aid, even with a perfect GPA and plenty of 4s and 5s on her APs. She keeps using their ‘calculators’ that indicate they will offer her some financial aid, but I think when it comes down to it my husband and I are going to be right over the cutoff with our salaries and won’t qualify for free money. If those no-merit schools give her anything it will be loans or work study. Which I’m fine with. We really want her to pick a public school so she can take advantage of DC TAG, but she says she wants to at least SEE if she can get in to these places like Princeton and Pomona. I have no idea why. What is the point? How does one reason with a senior who has all this self-imposed pressure to not only get into college but also have choices? We have been honest with her from the beginning about how much we can give her and her sibling per year. Why apply to a school that won’t offer merit when you’ve worked so hard to achieve in HS? All I want for her is college with no debt. Anyone else been in this situation?[/quote]

If you forbid her to apply to Princeton and Pomona College, she will resent you for the next few decades.

Tell her your financial situation and that the only loan money that she can get will be about $6,000 per year. Have her sign a one sided piece of paper acknowledging the situation.

Agree that she can apply to Princeton & Pomona only if she also applies to schools which are affordable.

Princeton & Pomona are unlikely to admit her. However, if either or both does, then you have a signed agreement about the financial situation.

No easy answer. But she did do her part regarding grades and standardized tests. So, if she wants to become an adult, then let her experience an adult financial reality that might motivate her to work hard to earn a lucrative career.

But, you should allow her to apply or you will deal with resentment for many decades to come. Plus, the odds are on your side.[/quote]

This is a very good response...I second it.[/quote]

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