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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 16-17 year old g/b twins in NW DC/close-in Bethesda. 
My kids have friends across public/private/Catholic.

My daughter has a tight group of friends (6) and none of them have ever dated.  They find that the boys are only interested in a select type of girls. 
My daughter and her friends are pretty, sporty, stylish, slim, smart.  What they aren't are popular and they're not the types to post bikini shots on Instagram.

They receive next to no interest from boys.  For some time this seemed awesome (who needs boys?) but now I find myself feeling a bit sad for them.  [b]It feels
(maybe I'm wrong) that girls have to really sell themselves these days to get the attention of ANY boys.[/b]  All the boys are clamoring over the same circle of girls
(the popular 10 or so from each high school and they all know each other from Instagram) and the rest receive no attention.  This transcends schools (these are boys from Catholic/public/private).  My son and his friends are guilty of it as well which makes it worse.  They turn up their noses (and basically lead on and then make fun of) other girls.  
It's horrible and I've had long talks to him about it. Many long talks.

Anyone else notice this dynamic?  It doesn't feel like it was this way when I was growing up.  Boys were less picky and less a$$holish about girls.  [/quote]

Not all boys are a$sholes.  I have 2 girls-a college sophomore and HS senior and a 13 year old boy.  The college kid was the athletic, wear pjs to class, hair in a messy bun kid.  She still dated in HS quite a bit (not that I wanted her to).  My HS kid is the instagram kid but she isn't obsessed with boys.  She dates as well.

I think your seeing this because you're in Bethesda/CC.  It's a whole different world there.  We moved out of the area last year and my younger kids are in private school now and the kids are a lot nicer with less entitlement even though a lot are extremely weatlhy.    We lived in Bethesda and Arlington before we moved so I know what you're talking about.

Raise confident girls who don't care what boys think.  I don't mean this in a snarky way and it's REALLY REALLY hard to do this in the current culture but that's the best you can do.  I'm hoping to teach my son to not be an a$shole[/quote]

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