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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I really feel for you.  Something similar happened between me and my best friend, whose first was born 5 days after my first.  She has an extremely dogmatic personality (which it sounds like your sister does as well), and the dogmatism went into overdrive once she was a mom.

A piece of good advice I got here was to remember that the first year of caring for your first child brings on incredible tunnel vision.  NOTHING seems more important than the decisions you make for your baby (and it can be argued that nothing else is more important than these decisions--but for subsequent children, the decisions just feel less weighty).  After 10-18 months, I predict that your sister and you will both be able to relax more.

I got through the tough time with my best friend by withdrawing for two years.  This will be harder to do with your sister, but please try to put some distance between yourself and her.  Hang out with other moms of newborns who share or accept your parenting practices.

Things will get better in time.  I'm sure it absolutely sucks now, but take comfort in the fact that once the first year or two is passed, your child will be blessed with a "twin" cousin.  [/quote]

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