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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every mom I know (particularly SAHM, military wife, others who were the primary parent) has a story like this with toddlers -- doesn't make it OK but it is not uncommon. I would not drive to a psych ward over this (yikes) but consider it a wakeup call that the fundamental balance of your life is off and needs to be changed immediately. I would work on the marriage first -- it really is the foundation. Look up anger management techniques. I have a naturally short fuse and walking away and reading a page of a book when angry really helps me. Agree with suggestion to be silent when angry with your toddler/putting them in time out. Just don't talk. Talking almost always makes it worse in these situations.[/quote]

Except that here it might not be a toddler, and the OP states she has ADHD. You are clearly not aware of the ramifications of this disorder if you think consulting a psychiatrist means "driving to a psych ward". Are you one of these people who believe ADHD is a made-up illness? [/quote]

DP.  That was a suggestion made upthread.  I can't say whether it's a good suggestion or not but agree with quoted PP that this is a wakeup call.  Something needs to change.  Now.[/quote]

PP quoted -- yep, was responding to the suggestion made upthread to check into an emergency room for mental health crisis. I don't think ADHD is made up and consulting a therapist would be a great (and essential) step in this situation. I just don't think it warrants being an inpatient[/quote]

As has been explained, stop defaulting to therapists! This is a medical (psychiatry is part of medicine) issue and needs to be treated as such. A therapist is not a doctor and they cannot treat actual mental health disorders, unless it's at the tail end, when a doctor has already been consulted, and pharmacological treatment has been discussed, tried and accepted or rejected.

DCUM for some reason loves to suggest therapy, without understanding that therapists can have a wide variety of non-medical training, most of it pretty light, and most do not even have graduate degrees.
People need to understand that mental health is part of medicine.  I am not advocating for medicating people without care or thought, indeed quite the opposite, but I want to point out that actually discussing things with a doctor should be the first step. Physical disease needs to be ruled out. Bloodwork needs to be done. If you have a cardiac risk, for example, taking stimulants for ADHD should not be undertaken lightly.

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