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[quote=Anonymous]My in laws don't stay overnight anymore because we moved close to them so now their visits are just a couple hours at a time, just for a meal or to hang out for awhile and then they go back home. It's really nice to be able to do that. However, even when we lived farther away and they did stay overnight, they were great guests. They never expected much from us. They would insist on helping cook, clean, do little projects around the house, take care of the kids so we could go out. And they would go to bed right after the kids did so my spouse and I could have some alone time in the evenings, which was so nice.

I cannot stand having my parents visit. They are way worse than my in laws used to be. Before they come visit, they send a list of all the things they want from the grocery store that I'm expected to go out and get before they arrive, as if we don't live a few minutes' drive from the store and they couldn't possibly wait til they're here and go pick up these things themselves. They are critical and judgmental and always making little comments about the house or our kids or whatever that is annoying. They also expect to be catered to the whole time they're here and don't really help out with anything. It's not that I mind cooking for them or cleaning up after them, it's just that they don't even say thank you or this is a good meal or anything like that. They just act entitled to everything. They expect us to plan all these activities and don't ever plan anything themselves and then they complain about what we chose to do or the timing of it (we have young kids so we tend to want to do things out of the house earlier in the day and then have nap/rest time in the afternoon but that doesn't work w/ my parents' schedule and they refuse to adapt to the kids' schedule) And they stay up until 11-12 every night and expect us to stay up with them and talk to them or pick out a movie to watch together (we do not have the same taste in movies) instead of retreating to their guest room where they could watch tv by themselves. They also never volunteer to watch the kids for us or help out with anything around the house like my in laws do.

I guess we are spoiled by how great my husband's parents are and it just illuminates my parents' flaws even more having these wonderful in laws to compare them to.[/quote]

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