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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm EXCELLENT at establishing boundaries, have never used ANY drugs and have an associate's degree in office work (basically, being an EA). Can I help you with something specific regarding boundaries? [/quote]

I have trouble saying no and I often do things I'd rather not do because it's easier than saying no. Apparently, I also breach boundaries via google searches.[/quote]

Why do you have trouble saying no? Are you worried about people not liking you if you say no? That you’ll let them down? Something else? A friend of mine at work was the same as you, and one day I casually asked her if I could borrow $10,000. She was completely shocked and stammered that she couldn’t do that, sorry. I smiled and said “of course you can’t; that’s a totally unreasonable request!” Then I told her every time someone asked her for something, to imagine they were asking for $10,000.

For me, the key to saying no is never giving a reason why. Pushy people will find a reason your “no” shouldn’t stand. By not giving a reason, they have less to work with. So I don’t say “I can’t because my parents are staying with us and my son broke his leg in four places so I’m overwhelmed right now “. I just say “I can’t, sorry.” If the person asks why I refuse to give a reason and just say again “that won’t be possible, but good luck.” Now there are exceptions to this- I’ll give a reason to family members, very close friends. Basically only people who don’t try to take advantage of me. Sometimes I offer a piece of what they’re asking. “Sorry I can’t host a banquet for 600 at my house tomorrow, but I’m happy to drop off napkins.”  [/quote]

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