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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can’t you tell anyone? It doesn’t make sense.[/quote]

I have been in OPs shoes. A lot of people cannot fathom child abuse and cannot handle hearing about it. Also, some people cannot handle that many bad things can happen to good people so they assume you are either being dramatic or maybe you did something to deserve it all. Also, sometimes it makes people so anxious to hear such things they avoid you. I am very careful who I share things with and it evolves. My most sheltered and fortunate friend eventually went through a rough patch where life hurled many awful things at her. She went into a depression and then she woke up, got help and realized how naive she had been and felt bad about her tendency to blame the victim.[/quote]

+1 to this.  My father was an abusive a$$hole but, oh so, charming.  We (my mother, me and my siblings) hid just how horrible he was.  It took me YEARS to stop hiding that and it was astounding how many people came to his defense - people who weren't around when he trashed the house, berating and beating the shit out of us all.  And, don't get me started on telling people how my 'do gooder' mother enabled him.  I'm glad I've reached the age of 'no more f@cks to give' and truly don't care to protect their 'legacies' or whether they believe me or not.  [/quote]

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