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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long story short, gifts from ILs always come with strings attached. ..ILs came into an inheritance and now want to “treat” us to a vacation alone, and will even watch our kids! It’s too good to be true! We all know how that saying goes.

Do I encourage him to decline the offer, reminding him the things mentioned above? Do I nudge him gently? Do I violently shake him awake?[/quote]

ILs got an inheritance?  Does this mean a GP bypassed a GC, the OP's DH?  A single elderly sibling dies and left them $? Since ILs are offering a trip for two my guess is it's something they'll pay with accumulated points since otherwise they could generously gift the amount from the inheritance.  That would be a treat.

[b]Call their bluff and ask for cash.[/b]  Or 529?  Redo a powder room?  Use it for anything.  [/quote]

I'm not sure how that's calling their bluff.  If I offer to take a friend out for dinner, that doesn't mean I should just give her the cash if she asks.  A gift is a gift.  The issue is whether OP and her husband are willing to tell his parents to pound sand when they try to use this gift to pressure OP and DH into doing something they want.  If you can trust yourself to say, "Oh, you're bringing up that vacation?  Wasn't that a gift?" then maybe take the vacation.  If not, say no.  [/quote]

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