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[quote=Anonymous]Like many of the others posting, I think you would benefit from therapy. You should not be thinking about how ugly you think you are all the time.

It can be hard to be a good friend to a person with an issue. I have a good friend who is obese. About once a week being overweight comes up as a topic and I twist myself into a pretzel trying to avoid hurting her feelings. Then she gets angry and says "I know I'm fat, X. Stop trying to avoid saying it; it makes it worse." But if I do say something, she says "I know I'm fat, X. You don't need to tell me." I can't win.

I use this example because I suspect that's what your friend who said "You look almost pretty" about a photo was doing. She wanted to say that you looked nice in the photo, but was instinctively worried that you'd say "I don't look good in any photo. Why are you saying I do when I don't?" So, like me, she struggles with how to phrase things. I doubt she was being intentionally cruel.

In addition to a therapist, you might try a stylist/make up artist. Some people are very successful at "making the most of what they have." You almost certainly have at least one good physical attribute. Or there's some corrective action you can take, e.g., contacts replacing glasses, teeth whitening, unibrow plucking, etc. Even a small change could make you more confident.

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