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[quote=Anonymous]Your friends sound Godawful, OP. I would address it head-on, because they're not only hurting your child, they're hurting their own child, for life, with this poor upbringing. After you've said your piece, I think you should distance yourselves for a bit so they can mull things over and have time to adjust.

"Constantly introducing competitive elements is harmful, Larla and Larlo - you're setting up my kid to fail, since yours is 2 years older, and she doesn't enjoy our gatherings anymore. Furthermore, if you do this to your kid all the time with everyone, you're raising them to think everything's a competition all the time, and winning is everything - which is also setting up your own kid for self-esteem issues and failure because they won't always win. Please think about praising effort, not achievement."

I have an east-Asian husband who used to be very cluelessly competitive like this. My friend and I had to explain to him how he wasn't doing any kids any favors by behaving like this. 
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