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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also don't think you're a good fit.

I think you should look into your feelings about how you need words of affirmation. What you're saying is a bit different than what I've read words of affirmation to be. I too am words of affirmation (plus acts of service), but to me that is someone recognizing and thanking me for things that I've done. I mean this kindly, but yours sounds like low self esteem or a coping mechanism. Have you explored that? Adults don't need other people to nonstop verbalize how someone feels about them- and it's only been 8 months.

Things you said: 
-share his feelings about me
-He has said he adores me and cares about me after I've brought it up
-who can't or won't say how they feel about me
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Blech, can we please get rid of the myth that wanting somebody to spontaneously express love with their words means you are needy or have low self-esteem? I could just as easily say OP's bf is emotionally stunted because he won't share how he is feeling about something unless specifically asked and doesn't seem to put himself in a position to be emotionally vulnerable. But I won't, because being like that is okay as long as it doesn't hamper your relationships. [/quote]

Yes I think you could say that her bf is emotionally stunted too. But it's OP who is asking the questions. Someone who doesn't want to be emotionally vulnerable with someone who is emotionally needy will make for a bad relationship.[/quote]

Well then you're wrong on both counts. :)

She wants somebody who shares his feelings. That is not needy. [/quote]

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