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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Worth breaking up over, IMO, since you have already told him it's important to do it and he, apparently, hasn't done it.

Unless, of course, you are okay with a relationship in which you make an effort to express love in your partner's language but he doesn't do the same for you. [/quote]

OP: I get what you're saying. For me, it's doesn't require effort to express love in his language because I love sex and being physically affectionate with him. I can tell he is uncomfortable with expressing emotions in words, though, which I know many guys are. Wondering if I should be making an exception for this.[/quote]

This is what I hate  about the love languages, people don't really explore what theirs truly are. Men just automatically say it's touch and women will say that men are uncomfortable with expressing emotions. Sometimes your love language is hiding behind something that you never receive or something you want. If you never get appreciated, you are going to say that your love language is words of affirmation. [/quote]

Oh my goodness this is so true. When we got married husband said his was physical touch. About eight years later, he got really stressed out at work and I got depressed because of two challenging kids and a chronic illness. When I couldn't do as much as he wanted me to around the house but we were still having sex, his love language became acts of service.

Regardless, what matters most is deciding what you absolutely need in a relationship and assessing how likely it is that your partner is going to take care of those needs. People change, sure, but you don't want to start a marriage hoping for a change. If you want a guy who shares his feelings, date until you find a guy who shares his feelings (and PS my husband definitely shares his feelings, as do many others I know. Men don't tend to be that way, but you don't need to worry about the men who aren't. You only need one who is [and who is otherwise compatible]). [/quote]

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