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It’s a high income but it’s not that much money. Taxes takes half. Mortgage — I’m sure that’s a lot — plus unless they have all kids in public school, full pay private could easily be $120k+ a year. Two jobs means nanny, daycare, house cleaning, possibly yard stuff.

OP — only you know what you’ll regret. I like having flexibility to see kids after school and generally be around. Being the family bus is not super rewarding, so I suggest you don’t take that role unless you love it. Do put yourself in the equation because you’re the only one who will be resentful or feel like you missed out if you don’t. What is working for me personally is to get into a position that’s senior enough to show I am serious, then lay back a bit until all kids are in elementary. After that I plan to move up and keep going because when kids are out of the house I definitely don’t want to be picking a hobby out of a bag to amuse myself.
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This is also the approach I am taking. Agree that it’s highly personal and only you can know what you might regret. All approaches are valid, at the end of the day it’s what will leave you more personally fulfilled. [/quote]

I totally agree with the above posters; this is such a personal decision and I feel like I revisit my options all the time. I run through a mental list that pretty much takes stock of the following: How much do I enjoy the work? How meaningful is it to me? Am I well compensated? Is it prestigious? How much do I need to work to reasonably stay "in the game." What experiences am I missing out on with DC when I am at work?

I work 27h/week and make 4-5X less than DH. Because we have irregular hours, we still do need full time childcare, essentially on retainer. Overall, I'm content with my decision to be on the "mommy track," but I do take pause when I hear my peers on NPR, see their books or see/hear their interviews/press releases on various media outlets. There is no perfect path, but ultimately we have to decide what degree of work/life balance we are okay with.
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