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[quote=Anonymous]Some random thoughts...

If she has heard you vent a lot about your mom/her grandma and she thinks you have poor boundaries with her and refuse to change, she may not want to enable by listening to more venting

It can be a self-absorbed age, but I would definitely praise her for all the independence-holding down job, paying bills-too many young adults struggle in those areas

She will never be your BFF. It isn't good for her to become your confidant. Yes, she should ask about you, just don't expect too much emotional support. I gave my mom tons of emotional support and it drained me and her neediness grew. I learned in therapy with the power differential it wasn't fair for mom to dump on me so much and it was healthier for her to save it for friends and therapy.

My elderly mom is narcissistic too and I vent in therapy. I let my kids know what I deal with and the boundaries, but I don't expect emotional support from them-not their job.

If you load the car next time spell out boundaries right away and even put in writing and have her sign. Otherwise she can just get a rental.[/quote]

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