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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Cousin relationships  are overrated.. Kids will form their own adult relationships of their own choosing when they grow up. (hopefully).[/quote]

This. I think when you force it it causes problems. I cam from a very dysfunctional family, but they were determined to look normal and we had extended family gatherings with "the cousins." I bloom where i am planted and developed friendships with 2 cousins which our parents then sabotaged with every tool a dysfunctional family uses: comparison, bad mouthing and gossip, rumors, triangulation. We are no longer close and it's fine with me. We were forced together, I did what I thought my family wanted and they broke it up.

I am always wary of families that get too nutty about the whole "cousins!!!" thing. I think if you are truly close and the personalities mesh, it's a beautiful thing when cousins become close too. Those people tend to be matter of fact about it. You can tell some people just need to out on a show and pretend to be some tight knit clan.[/quote]

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