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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So what is their reason? Why don’t they ever want to meet him? You have to share more about what they’re saying to you if you’re going to get any decent advice. [/quote]

It’s complicated. I think they don’t want a “step-dad” even though I do not have plans to marry him any time soon. I think they felt like they were forced to have a step-mom a little too soon and don’t want to have to deal with the general awkwardness and change to the family dynamic that comes with welcoming a new person into the family. I think they are all retry typical and understandable reasons. [/quote]

Of course they don’t want to.  It’s basically all risk from their perspective — my parents got divorced, we were teenagers when she started dating, our mom’s BF made it endlessly clear that he didn’t like how we acted, how she parented us, etc. That’s a pretty common dynamic.  Obviously you need to do what makes sense from your perspective and the kids surely don’t get a veto, but try to keep in mind that while them meeting your BF is a positive step for you, it may well be a negative step for them and that perspective is legitimate.[/quote]

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