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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd let her skip, assuming you're not out a substantial amount of money.  Frankly, kids have been through enough stress during the pandemic; I'm not adding to that if I can help it.  I'm reasonably strict as a parent, but I'm not mean.[/quote]

It's ONE WEEK. [/quote]

+1 Resilience, people. A little grit.[/quote]

Lol, yeah.  Is that what you tell yourself?

God, I am so, so tired of people who throw around the term "resilience" when it comes to kids, who clearly have no idea what it really means.[/quote]

What does it mean in this particular camp context? I feel like allowing a kid to cancel on something already paid for at the last minute just because their friend isn’t going is not conducive to resilience.[/quote]

It's not relevant in this context, unless the PP is hoping the kid will have a lousy time but ultimately be no worse for wear.  There are plenty of opportunities to face adversity and challenge in regular daily life, and with the support of close adults.  Purposely exposing your kid to more adversity than they may be able to handle solo isn't fostering resilience.

FWIW, I don't generally let my kids back out of commitments.  You're nervous about the swim meet?  Do your best, but you're not scratching.  Worried you'll screw up at the violin recital?  That might happen, but I know you'll get through it.  Heck, my own 10 year old DD didn't have the most fun at her first week of day camp, because none of her friends ended up going, which she didn't anticipate.  I absolutely encouraged her each morning, checked in at pick up about connections she'd made, etc., but I didn't let her stay home.

But a week of sleepaway camp, for a kid who doesn't want to attend?  Solely to prove I'm a "hardass"?  Not my thing.

(I do think a PP's suggestion to contact the camp director is a good one.  If I were the OP, I'd go that route first, at least to gather more data about the situation, get a sense of how many other kids might be there solo, etc.)[/quote]

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