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My husband pitched in. He cooked, washed up, did laundry. I breastfed and we co-slept.

Both our families are in Europe. We lived in a small apartment (for DC1 and DC2), which made the postpartum period a little easier - less housework. [/quote]

Me again. Honestly, I don't quite understand when everyone says it's hard. Yes, there is plenty of sleep deprivation at first, but that's also the time when I'm most motivated to get up and care for the baby, because I'm full of motherly instinct or whatnot :-) . My first was born with special needs, so his health was a big concern. But the actual daily routine? Not a problem.

Perhaps when you say it's hard, you mean you have other things going on apart from newborn/early childhood and work? Because that's all we did for a while, and that's all we wanted to do. We didn't have hobbies, we didn't plan regular parties, etc...

Now my kids are teens, I foster puppies for a rescue, and there's still plenty of sleep deprivation (newborn care, potty-training, etc). Motherly instinct needing an outlet, I guess.[/quote]

The adjustment to parenthood is different for everyone. Some of us recover from birth quickly, others heal more slowly. Feeding can be complicated or effortless- though most often varying degrees of both. Some babies cry non stop, others only when they need something (though the nonstop ones also need something but it’s harder to sort at times). Not everyone has a partner that can help, maybe they have to go to work right away, or are not confident, or just plain suck. Others find it easy. Some of us have horrific ppda and or birth trauma- some don’t. It’s  a very individual family specific dynamic. So, great it wasn’t noticeably difficult beyond sleep deprivation for you. Thank you for fostering. Let other people have their own experiences. [/quote]

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