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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Part of what you are describing commentary-wise sounds like the habitual script of aging folks who are basically narrating their day and have NO IDEA about the way that it affects you, your family, and your experience.

In alignment with the "very direct" comment, I'd suggest that you write down 1) your planned daily beach schedule and 2) your plan for the dinner you host and 3) whatever else you want to be off limits commentary-wise. Share it with your inlaws ahead of time. Make it clear to them that this is your plan and that if they cannot be happy joining you at the beach while you vacation in a way that works for your family, you won't be able to do the trip anymore. The purpose of writing it down is so that you can all reference a shared understanding of your preferences. "Mom, as we told you, we're not going to do the beach in the morning." Otherwise, they will lapse back into their habits and potentially not even realize they are doing it.

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Writing down what we're doing when is a good idea. If only to have it in black and white, highlighted, WE WILL NOT BE EATING LUNCH ON THE BEACH. :) This is actually a really good idea. Thank you! -OP[/quote]

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