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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in a dysfunctional home as well:  yelling, hitting, emotional neglect, and sexual molestation.  Have been in therapy for a while and doing better, but still a bit shaky.  I never felt a need to forgive my parents, but did ask my therapist about it.  Her answer was that forgiveness is a Christian construct and not needed by everyone to heal.  For me, forgiveness or an apology wouldn't change or fix anything.

However, you get to decide what you need, OP.  What would an apology give you?  What would forgiveness give you?  Is there another way to address those needs?

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I know that I will never get an apology. I was thinking about forgiveness in terms of lightening the burden I'm currently bearing. The fighter in me wants to go off on them and tell them how terrible they were to my siblings and to me, but I'll never do that. I also will never cut them out completely; although I keep my distance for my own sanity and to protect my dd. I am simply hurting and feeling anger. I know it will pass eventually.[/quote]

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