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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If this was something you knew was important to him when you married him then you better have a heck of a reason to change your mind, one stronger than “I want to lay out at the pool.” [/quote]

It’s more than the pool.  I think I still might have some stuff to unpack from my divorce (when kids were a toddler and a baby).  I had absolutely no help and was flat broke - it was extremely stressful and lonely.  I had PPD/PPA and no resources.  I really dislike being pregnant - I gain a ton of weight and am generally miserable.  I restarted my career and am in a good place and am afraid I will never have the opportunity to re-enter the workforce.  Im also be  eh [b]stressed about: the Russia-Ukraine war, the state of our democracy, climate change, school (etc) shootings, Covid/monkeypox etc etc, and the like.  The world was different when I had my first two. [/b]

Also, losing a baby in the second trimester was very difficult. It’s just hard for me to muster excitement when it seems like things are so bleak and uncertain. [/quote]

The world is truly no worse than it was when you had your first 2 kids.  You’re likely stressed out from 24-7 news.  Not having another kid because of the Ukraine war is kind of sad.  [/quote]

+1. Turn off the news.

Btw, Trump was elected during my pregnancy with my 5yo. Guessing the same for you, OP. I mean, what could be worse than that?

You do, however, need to sit down with your DH to discuss finances and make sure you can continue working (since that’s what you want) and that he will be fully involved with childcare. Assuming you come to an agreement on that, it would be a bait-and-switch IMO to tell him you changed your mind and no more kid. It’s different when you already have one and say no to more.[/quote]

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