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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If this was something you knew was important to him when you married him then you better have a heck of a reason to change your mind, one stronger than “I want to lay out at the pool.” [/quote]

It’s more than the pool.  I think I still might have some stuff to unpack from my divorce (when kids were a toddler and a baby).  I had absolutely no help and was flat broke - it was extremely stressful and lonely.  I had PPD/PPA and no resources.  I really dislike being pregnant - I gain a ton of weight and am generally miserable.  I restarted my career and am in a good place and am afraid I will never have the opportunity to re-enter the workforce.  Im also be  eh stressed about: the Russia-Ukraine war, the state of our democracy, climate change, school (etc) shootings, Covid/monkeypox etc etc, and the like.  The world was different when I had my first two.

Also, losing a baby in the second trimester was very difficult. It’s just hard for me to muster excitement when it seems like things are so bleak and uncertain. [/quote]

I absolutely understand I had two miscarriages and I felt like that really robbed me of the joy of being pregnant it just made me worry about the other shoe dropping.

I think it's important to listen to your gut and your heart and just take getting pregnant off the menu for the nearest Future and then see how you feel in 6 months.

I think the important thing you need to do is really have that conversation with your husband about why you just do not feel emotionally ready to try for another baby right now and maybe not ever. And even if your husband doesn't get to become a father in the way that he had always planned I hope he will find a lot of great joy in being a stepfather to your children[/quote]

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