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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder how many posters who call this a "bad plan" are actually primarily responsible for their aging parents' day-to-day care?  i have a hunch none of you are.  It seems to me that this is an excellent plan, that OP should be exceedingly grateful to her sister and BIL, and that OP might consider offering to pitch in some money herself to help make it happen.  Why is it so important that OP's mom not "overpay" for an extremely convenient house that guarantees her proper and close care and security as she ages?

You armchair quarterbacks are really too much.     [/quote]

Bad plan and I was 100 percent responsible for many years.  It’s not financially viable.  [/quote]

+1,000

You cannot know how she will age. Even an age proofed house is not ideal if a person gets to the point of not being able to walk or talk. Some people age gracefully, some turn into entitled monsters with no boundaries and overflowing hostility. With demenia the personality can change to the point you are an entirely different person.

Also, when there are lots of emergency and extremely challenging behavior it can do in the health of the support network. if she stays where she is she more likely to maintain a healthy social life. When the time comes I suggest assisted living. Much easier to manage care by having pleasant visits and chatting with staff, than having her totally dependent on you.[/quote]

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