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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You will only get over it when you stop needing approval from your parents. Because that’s what this is really about. [/quote]

How does one do that? We are literally conditioned from birth to seek their approval.[/quote]

Coming to accept that they are simply fellow adults who you choose to have a relationship with because you want to. [/quote]

I strongly disagree with this approach. I am absolutely free to disagree with my parents, well, my father since my mother died, but I will never be disrespectful toward him. He may have different points of view, and I will prioritize my nuclear family.  But I will never, ever be disrespectful toward my parent. They brought me life, they worked very hard to raise me, including decades of putting my needs before theirs. I don’t care if he is right or wrong, or frankly anything else. They are my parents and earned and deserve to be treated with respect.  So much of my life, from my belief that I can do anything I put my mind to, to the practical aspect that they have worked so hard to support me financially through school and when I was starting off in life as an adult, I cannot imagine the condescension of treating them simply as another person in the world. I am not suggesting that anyone put their parents before their spouses or children, but the disrespect and the lack of empathy toward parents is shocking. When people get older, sometimes they simply become more afraid, and more risk averse. They love their children and are really very concerned. And sometimes that can push boundaries that we need to uphold. But to treat our parents, the people who produce life and race just, as though they are random people out there on the street, seems important to me. I may disagree with my dad about many, many things, but I will never treat him with disrespect and will always be so grateful for supporting me and providing me with the life then abled me to be an independent, rethinking and successful child, no adult.[/quote]. Meant to say “now adult”.  [/quote]

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