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[quote=Anonymous]I feel you, OP. It’s only gotten harder as the kids have gotten older (and complicated by the fact that the cousin closest to my kids in age is actually my aunt’s daughter). We still make the effort, but it stings sometimes.

My young adult daughter lives in NY now, and the cousin, who is just a year older and lives in Boston, has been posting photos from NY all week but bo plans to meet up, even for a quick coffee. She’ll be happy to see us when we all go up to New England this summer, but she won’t bother to reach out otherwise. Over the course of my kids’ childhood, we have visited her and her mom at least once every year. They’ve visited us about 5 times (kids are all in their early 20s now). I love them both dearly, and they do sustain the relationship in other ways, but visits are really lopsided.

Meanwhile, my 30something cousin on the other side will be in NY next week for a very quick trip and has contacted my daughter to see about getting together. He and his sister always do whenever they’re nearby. The kids definitely the difference between cousins on the two sides.

Sorry to go off on my own tangent, OP. Your post stirred up a lot of things I’ve been noticing/thinking about for a long time.

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