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Millions of women take care of two or more children every single day of the year and have no help. Why can't you do the same. The secret is to get organized and not to sweat the small stuff. Make sure they are fed, dry, clean, and loved. [/quote][/i]

Yes, but having a newborn and toddler on your own--not just all day but also all night, 4 days straight, every single week, is tough--particularly if your toddler is a poor sleeper or jealous or high energy and needs to be out for hours each day while you are still recovering from childbirth and nursing a month old baby. (I for one do not have a toddler who can quietly hang out in the house for hours, nor does he take a nap most days).

OP--can you get the mother's helper (or a more regular helper) on the 4 days that DH is away each week? preschool or daycare those days too is a good idea.

the toughest part for me about newborn and toddler when I'm on my own is when toddler wants to be picked up right away and I'm nursing the baby. He gets jealous and upset. Or, I've got baby in my arms and toddler is about to do something colossally dangerous, stupid, messy, etc. Plus, the sheer exhaustion of night time if BOTH are getting up multiple times and you don't have someone to take some of the night wakings (I feed baby but DH deals with toddler). and going to the supermarket  with both is tough too, at this point (I second Peapod).

some practical advice: have a lot of places where you can put the baby down to attend to toddler. get a sling or other device to wear baby so that you have hands free and can read, etc, to toddler. [quote][/quote]

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