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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m your husband and often wonder if I have adhd and or executive functioning issues.

You are my husband…he doesn’t get how I can function.

[b]The reality is we function well, just on different timelines. [/b]I tend to have clarity on exactly what I need to do when I am under pressure. Problem solving is my favorite part of work. I get that it’s hard to work with but it doesn’t mean that we are less capable or lazy. It’s constant work to tone down our natural inclinations.

Do you know his Myers Briggs? I’m an ESTP and I’m wondering if he is too. 
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Those timelines on which you’re functioning well are hugely inconsiderate to everyone else. At the point where you’re holding up work and family priorities you are not functioning “well”. I just had to drop someone from a project even though her work was excellent— she routinely sent things to people at 2am. Those people and their work matter too, not just hers.[/quote]

They aren’t inherently inconsiderate. But, with better understanding and better communication partners can find ways manage when timelines conflict.

I’ll say that managing the frustration around the fact my ideal timeline is so contrary to mainstream is the hardest part. I’m recently diagnosed at 42 and drugs help slow down my racing mind, but it still feels like I’m on a different wavelength than most people most of the time.

You don’t know whether or not that’s the case with PP. Maybe her timelines don’t impact others at all.

As somebody with ADHD it is so frustrating the way people project their experiences with those with ADHD, in combination with the frustrations they have heard secondhand about people with ADHD, onto the rest of us. This is why people who have ADHD need to be cautious about who they tell. [/quote][/quote]

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