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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

This is exactly why I posted.

I can’t gauge if I was in the wrong to bother him, or I should’ve set another timer.

Or he’s rude.

Or both.[/quote]

I think the way of responding is rude, but also pretty predictably rude. Personally, I try to avoid provoking conflicts like that, because there's not usually a good way out once they start. I did have to talk to my almost six year old about shouting "WHAT" when I interrupted tablet time to say something and replacing it with a calmer "yes?"

In our house, I find that the timer approach to screen time doesn't really work that well; the limits are arbitrary and don't really make sense to my daughter. Instead, I limit tablet time based on circumstances and allow essentially unlimited use with those circumstances. For instance, the tablet is fine while I make dinner or clean up the living room, or when we're leaving for an activity in half an hour, or whatever. When those circumstances are done I give her a little time to wrap up the game and then I move us on to another activity. I was a gamer growing up and I still play a bit, and I know it's difficult to fit into arbitrary blocks of time; for me what I'm most interested in teaching is "this is something we do, but it's not all we do and it's not the primary thing we do" rather than "this is something we do for ten minutes a day." I've had good results with that and my daughter will play some days and then not at all for a week and we don't fight about it when I say no or tell her to move on.[/quote]

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