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[quote=Anonymous]OP please whatever else you read here.. Do Not have sex you don’t want. *That* is the seed of resentment that will poison your marriage in the long term, not your husband only getting laid once a week at 12 weeks postpartum.

If you want to be having more sex, get childcare for an afternoon, go out (just you) and really think about what it would take for you to have more enjoyable sex. Maybe you need more household help, maybe you need more time for yourself (exercise, PT as someone mentioned) maybe you need more sleep, but really think it over and be sure about it.  Then when your husband next approaches you say, look, Bill, I also want to get our sex life back to where it was before the twins but obviously things in the rest of our lives have undergone a huge shift and we need to adjust to make sure we’re making space for this. So please tomorrow on your lunch break could you call our cleaning agency and see if they can form an extra day every week. Also, I’ll be asking *babysitter* to arrive at 7 on Tuesday’s and Thursday’s so I can get more rest, I’d appreciate it if you’re extra quiet leaving those mornings” or whatever it is. This has to be a household, lifestyle adjustment to work.

Men on this board hate me, but my husband and I have sex 2x week and every day on vacations. The only way this works without resentment is when you make your environment one that is conducive to a healthy sex life, and that’s a two person job.[/quote]

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