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This is OP here. Thanks for the suggestions but I don't think my husband is up for any of this ... for now. He's not even looking into local community groups and activities right now. He told me he's looking forward to spending the summer in our garden (which is looking pretty by the way). [b]I don't think he wants to be part of anything that involves group activities or even obligations or commitments to others.[/b]

He spent years of his working life in senior management, in a very full on, demanding and often stressful job, and it has taken a lot out of him.
He may well need a year to adjust to his new found freedom before he decides what to do next.
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I get that OP.  Lots of men of this generation are the same way.  I'm just telling you -- anonymous wife to anonymous wife -- this has to change.  Guys get so isolated in the older years, and then God forbid the wife dies before the husband -- they are lost because they simply didn't invest the time in building connections within the community.

You said you don't have kids, so you didn't have to do this with your own teens -- sometimes you really have to pry and nudge and nag them to get out there are form connections.  Yes, you do.  Yes it is meddling and interfering but it will benefit them AND YOU (key point) in the long run.

No, I don't suggest you give your husband a list and tell him he has do join all the things and do all the projects.  But yes, I think older men need to be helped along this path to being more social. You know him best, what would intrigue him or make him want to get involved in civic life or help him make connections?

Married men rely on wive, jobs for social life; lonely in retirement
https://www.alegrecare.com/single-post/2018/06/04/are-senior-men-more-prone-to-loneliness-and-isolation

Isolation and retired men:  UK.  
https://www.independentage.org/sites/default/files/2016-05/isolation-the-emerging-crisis-for-older-men-report.pdf

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