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[quote=Anonymous]Maybe if I had gotten married younger and having kids younger was an option, I might have regretted "waiting." But I'm the child of older parents, so that's what I knew going into it. I got married at 30. My dad died from a long, progressive illness a few weeks before the wedding, and I wasn't in a mental place to take on motherhood right away. DH (who turned 40 right before the wedding) wanted kids right away. We aimed to have the first kid when I was 33. (My mom was 35 when I was born; I'm her only.) I wasn't expecting fertility issues based on family history, but, long story short, we got diagnosed with unexplained infertility and required treatments just shy of IVF (clomid + injectables + IUI). Our first kid was born when I was 36 and the second when I was 39 (also through ART).

My mom was very involved with the first kid and took care of her from 5 months to about 15 months. But then she developed a rare, chronic illness and has had less physical involvement. My MIL was 16 when DH was born, so she should have been able to help out a lot too. But, for a variety of reasons, she hasn't been able to. When our kids were little, and friends were taking couples getaways for the weekend and leaving their kids with the grandparents, we didn't have that option.[/quote]

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