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[quote=Anonymous]You’re a good aunt. And I totally get your feelings. I think at least 50% of the time it’s totally fine just to take the older kids. Your sister has to understand that taking older kids is totally different than having a 4 year old all day, and the kid might be a little sad, but he’ll be fine and will just interpret it as one more thing he can’t do that his siblings do because he’s too little, which sucks, but isn’t the same as thinking “my aunt doesn’t love me.” I say this as someone who was the youngest cousin in my family with a similar dynamic. Honestly, it hardly registered, and I still looked up to my older cousins and aunts and uncles and enjoyed our time together. That’s just part of the deal if being the youngest kid - you get spoiled, and doted on, and have more lenient rules but in return you have to deal with getting left out of big kid stuff. It’s fine!!

Occasionally drop the big ones off somewhere and take him out to get ice cream and you’ll still be his favorite person ever.

The way you’re feeling does not make you a bad aunt. I’ve totally been there on the aunt side too - for example, on a ski trip with my nieces and nephews where instead of having fun tearing it up with my tweens and their tween cousins, I was stuck on the bunny hill with my 5 year old nieces. I did it for half a day and then said sorry, I’m going to go off with the other kids now - I’ll play candyland when we get back tonight! The girls were a little disappointed in the moment, and my BIL was a little annoyed (as it meant he had to deal with his own kids) but I did not let myself feel too guilty and we all had fun together later. There’s being a good aunt, and there’s being a martyr![/quote]

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