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OP, you mention how he at times gets really "into" a hobby (hyper focused, would you say?) then can go the other direction and just lie in bed. I am not going to diagnose him here and I'm no doctor but this sounds like my friend who was misdiagnosed for YEARS as depressed when she actually had bipolar disorder. Some doctors are poor at diagnosing BPD unless it exhibits very, very "textbook" symptoms. Misdiagnosis leads to giving a patient the wrong medication that does not address the real condition. I would get him seen by fresh eyes and suggest the idea of bipolar at the very least to rule it out if it's truly not the case.

The fact he wants his "high" feelings back again is extremely worrying. Has he articulated that to a doctor in exactly that way? He feels too "evened out" and misses the peaks? A doctor really needs to hear that AND needs to hear that DH is trying hard to justify weed use.

I think you are right to say that weed use should come only with a doctor's say-so and a prescription for medical weed. Your DH is clearly seeking, very hard, for the green light to self-medicate with weed. Don't give it to him. Despite the belief by many that weed is innocuous, it interacts with hundreds of medications, and if he starts smoking on his own while taking meds (or worse, quits meds in favor of weed) -- your problems will worsen. I"m not saying weed is evil, I'm saying it's still a drug that will affect his mental state and his treatment with other meds (and could even affect any talk therapy, if he feels he doesn't need to talk to anyone because weed alone is enough for him to feel fine).

Word of warning, too: If he just goes out and buys weed, he could end up with weed that is much more potent than he realizes. A friend got very sick from smoking weed that "wasn't like the stuff I smoked a few years ago" -- it was knock-you-on-your-ass potent stuff. There's a huge variety out there now, and your DH could end up with something that makes him feel sick-- or makes him feel higher than before and becomes way too attractive to him.

You are right to intervene here, because he is not thinking straight. You need him to sign off on whatever is necessary for you to talk to his doctor(s). At a minimum you can talk TO doctors and give them informaiton and your observations, even if they claim they can't talk to you about DH. But I'd find out how to get much more involved in his treatment, especially as he wants to treat himself. Not a good thing. 
Come back and update us someday. I truly hope it will be a positive update and he will get the help he needs.[/quote]

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