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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the same way. In my case, I’m pushing 40 and envious of young, beautiful women. It pisses me off because I know it’s our messed-up culture that values women only while they are young and discards them once they hit 30.

Nothing I’ve tried has stopped it, so instead I flaunt the things I do have. I have more money than them, so I buy nice things they can’t afford. I have children and they don’t, so I make a big deal of being a good, attentive mom. Many are dumb, so I make a show of being much smarter. I have a husband, so I pay extra attention to him in public. Once in awhile I’ll make a comment to put them in their place; for example, I was at a restaurant and a 23 year old waitress in booty shorts kept calling me “sweetie” and “honey”. Eventually I just looked at her, raised an eyebrow, and sarcastically said “sweetie? Really?”

I know it’s petty and that this is 100% on patriarchy and not on those girls. I guess to be fair, I also put men of all ages in their place, too.[/quote]

You sound awful, and I say that as a 40-something woman with a husband and a kid.

Also, if you can't see how flaunting money, education, your husband, and your kids is actually 100% in service to patriarchy and (I'm guess you're white) white supremacy, then you are nowhere near as clever as you think you are. You are basically bragging that you are better than other women because a man married you, you're fertile, and you have money. Gross, gross, gross.

OP, next time you feel envious, think of PP here and remind yourself "wow, at least I'm not like that."[/quote]

Never said I was a role model or that I’m 100% in the right. OP asked how handle with extreme envy, and this is what has worked for me. [/quote]

Your strategy doesn’t work long term though. As you continue to age, your envy of younger, more beautiful women will only increase. Your behavior will just get more petty. Your marriage might get rocky, your kids less cute as they age, or you might wind up with bad relationships with them. Flaunting your money might work with a 20 something waitress, but it won’t work when the woman in question is also wealthy.

It’s just bad advice. You aren’t solving anything. This is a recipe for disaster and I’d never deliver this as advice, you sound mentally unstable.[/quote]

+1[/quote]

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