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[quote=Anonymous]I think you need to pick your battles. You may be setting objectively reasonable boundaries but if the kids whine and cry and refuse to do them every time, is it worth it? What do you think you’re accomplishing with the boundaries? Do you continue to set them because you think maybe you’re training them in a way that their parents have failed to train them? I ask because my mom does that with my kids. She has rules that I don’t have (like my 3 year old must wait until the person who has cooked the food picks up her fork before she takes her first bite). I know it’s proper etiquette. I know my mom feels disrespected when my daughter starts eating as soon as food is put in front of her. I think it’s a silly expectation for a 3 year old and I won’t back my mom up on this. My mom says she continues to enforce it because “if I don’t teach her this, no one will.”

So…I would say examine your reasons for your rules. If you’re trying to teach the kids something that you think they are lacking, I would drop that, even if you think your rule is completely reasonable. A rule that is enforced only at the aunt’s house once a month (or whatever) and not backed up by the parents isn’t teaching the kids anything.

And cleaning up for half an hour after having kids over is not onerous at all.[/quote]

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