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Op here, want to start a new mini thread. Does anyone have scripts for asking kids to begin cleaning?

It would be very very very helpful for me to have a set script with follow up scripts for responding to their behavior. [/quote]

I mean this with kindness, but you should very insecure about your parenting. Kids will eat you alive once they realize this. I actually do think you might benefit from a parenting class. The reality is that most of us in this thread cannot relate, because we simply expect our kids to do chores. And sure, our kids might push back a bit, but we just remind them they have to do X and they know we mean business and so it gets done.

The reality is that we outsource a ton so my kid doesn’t have tons of chores. By age 4, she was putting her own laundry away and doing basic pick ups. By age 9, she unloads the dishwasher and vacuums on weekends, puts her laundry away twice a week, cleans up her playroom and bedroom every two weeks before the maid service comes — with a deep purge every few months that an adult helps with. She also does some one off stuff that we pay for like swiffering. She doesn’t love doing any of this, but she knows it has to get done. Sometimes she negotiates a bit, “can I finish my show first/Lego set, etc.” I often say “sure” and sometimes I say “nope, you have to do it right now.” It works fine for us.[/quote]

That should be “sound very insecure.”

I also want to add that you seem to have really lost perspective about what kids are capable of. In addition to my kid that I talked about doing chores, I have a child with profound special needs that will be a baby cognitively forever. She will require 24/7 care essentially in an institution. If she was cognitively about 4 years old, she would live in a much more independent way as an adult — like an apartment with a caregiver, but fixing her own lunch, etc. If she was cognitively about 10 years old, she would likely live quite independently — ride a bus to her job bagging groceries, make her own meals, and clean her own place with some limited supervision and someone having financial controls. Kids are capable of so much if we teach them and get out of their way.[/quote]

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