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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think there's a lot you can do except keep inviting her over.  It sucks that she's not self-aware enough to see why the kids gravitate to their other aunt -- maybe instead of making it about the kids try to respond by saying something you do value/like about her?  I know you clearly prefer your SIL but there must be something you think is admirable about your sister, right?

FWIW, I have an aunt and a sister who are just really not little kid people.  They aren't jealous/on their phone like you describe, but they're really not great with dealing with little kids.  But they are both invaluable family members for teens to have.  I know I valued visiting my not-good-with-kids aunt as a teen and being able to connect with in a more adult peer way (because she didn't know how to talk to me as a kid lol) and it helped me figure out some stuff.  Similarly, my sister has never been a close confidant of our niece but when she (the niece) was going through some stuff as a teen, my sister's presents were always the best because my sister always gives books and she was GOOD and choosing the things my niece needed when everyone else was floundering.  So the ability to get down and play pretend or build lego with elementary schoolers is absolutely not required for a good aunt/nibling relationship.[/quote]

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